Brick Bridge Facture: My Stand

As much as i can't stand people who 'have no friends when they have boyfriend/girlfriend', i pray hard that i'm not like that.

Yes, i hate to admit this, but circumstances and dynamics that i have will definitely change.

I pray that i'll know how to balance the things in my life, not only in relationship, but also in work, play, fun and having my own time. After all, we only have 24 hours per day, eh?

The only constant thing is change, eh?

I still want my friends, friends.

*sigh*

Love & Peace!~

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Uno Moon

I just feel so darn happy now. We just feel so darn happy. And i thank God for every moment we're gone through, the good and bad times. God is so awesome!

I got a glimpse of how Adam felt when Eve was introduced to him. Well, we're anticipating more in the future. And i'm inspired to plan more in the future too.



Expecting many MorE Lively, excIting monthS to come Soon AnD I LOVing EverY mOment Unexpected!

Love & Peace!~

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An Exile Returns to Parliament.

After ten days of campaign; walking around, going places, shaking hands, waving at the masses, giving ceramahs, propagating and mud-slinging, finally, it came down to the populace of Permatang Pauh.

Just now, many witnessed over the internet and by word of mouth, that PKR de facto leader Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim has defeated his opponents, BN candidate Datuk Arif Shah Omar Shah and independent candidate Hanafi Hamat in the Permatang Pauh Parliamentary By-Election today.

And now, Anwar's back in Parliament after a decade of MIA. Let's just see if he can fulfill his promise of taking over the federal government.

Now, all eyes are (still) watching Malaysia.

I pity the eccentric Akim fellow who lost his RM15,000 deposit. Only secured 92 votes. *sigh*

Love & Peace!~

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Blue Funk?

I've got something troubling me recently. It has nothing to do with Melissa and me, but what's going on in the Cheah house.

I can't go into details for the moment, but i know this will take a toil on me; i've got to be wiser and tighten my belt.

I believe that if God put us into this, He'll take us through this. That's how great my God is lah.

I expect more great days to come.

I like what one postcard on Postsecret.com stated a few weeks ago; "I pray that I will be stronger, not for things to be easier."

That's what i want to be... for my future.

Love & Peace!~

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What we had that afternoon.

This entry should have been up on Aug 15, but there was some problems with up-loading the pictures. But since the pictures are up, i'll just blog about this anyway.

Well, Melissa D and i had late lunch at Kim Gary at Gurney Plaza last Friday, and it was a long lunch indeed. Anyway, here are some shots of the dishes we had.


Fish Lunch Set with Spaghetti, and cream soup.

I had a mix grill set, which had a chicken, pork, sausage, ham, sunny side-up egg, fries and vegetables.


Fries with meat sauce


All in all, it's about RM35. And it was worth it lah. Though, i wouldn't want to come here too often. Coming here every now and then is still okay.


Sometimes, you need to enjoy the silence before the storm actually comes. And with everyone is coming up here to Permatang Pauh to see the fiesta, i'm enjoying it as well. Five more days to go!

Love & Peace!~

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Goodbye, Gideon.

(Late) Gideon Chan (left) and friend.


Yesterday, i was caught off guard after receiving an SMS which stated the following:

I'm sorry to tell you that our bro in Christ, Gideon Chan, has past away this morning.. please pray for his family..

Immediately, i called my friend to confirm the news validity. I was shocked to find out that this young chap, aged 22, was involved in a car accident yesterday morning. It just happened to suddenly.

I got to know Gideon through CF in university. We weren't close, but we had our small talks during CF meetings and in last year's CF camp. I remember he sending me to the PC block in his new Viva after a CF meeting.

Frankly, i don't really know this meek, yet friendly guy well enough, but i was a bit distracted hearing his death yesterday. I heard that a few of the CF members will be visiting him later after CF meeting today.

Well, rest in peace, and hope to meet you in heaven one day, ok?


Gideon (front row, right) with the rest of us CF members. Photo taken last year.


"Certainty? In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes."

Benjamin Franklin

Love & Peace!~

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Fever....

I'm experiencing fatigue.

Feeling disappointed as i couldn't see Melissa D last night or meet up with her this morning. I'm just feeling so tired. *sigh*

Well, it's the Permatang Pauh By-election fever. I think the whole world is looking at this three way fight. Oh well, we'll wait for Aug 26 to see the outcome, and what would happen for the days to come.

It's part of work, but i'll make it up to Melissa D one day. Sorry.

Love & Peace!~

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The Prodigal Son in the Key of F

I heard this in a sermon a few months ago in PCC. And found this on the internet. Do check it out:


Feeling footloose and frisky, a feather-brained fellow forced his father
to fork over his farthings. Fast he flew to foreign fields and
frittered his family's fortune, feasting fabulously with floozies and
faithless friends. Flooded with flattery he financed a full-fledged
fling of "funny foam" and fast food.

Fleeced by his fellows in folly, facing famine, and feeling faintly
fuzzy, he found himself a feed-flinger in a filthy foreign farmyard.
Feeling frail and fairly famished, he fain would have filled his frame
with foraged food from the fodder fragments.

"Fooey," he figured, "my father's flunkies fare far fancier," the
frazzled fugitive fumed feverishly, facing the facts. Finally,
frustrated from failure and filled with foreboding (but following his
feelings) he fled from the filthy foreign farmyard.

Faraway, the father focused on the fretful familiar form in the field
and flew to him and fondly flung his forearms around the fatigued
fugitive. Falling at his father's feet, the fugitive floundered
forlornly, "Father, I have flunked and fruitlessly forfeited family
favor."

Finally, the faithful Father, forbidding and forestalling further
flinching, frantically flagged the flunkies to fetch forth the finest
fatling and fix a feast.

Faithfully, the father's first-born was in a fertile field fixing fences
while father and fugitive were feeling festive. The foreman felt
fantastic as he flashed the fortunate news of a familiar family face
that had forsaken fatal foolishness. Forty-four feet from the farmhouse
the first-born found a farmhand fixing a fatling.

Frowning and finding fault, he found father and fumed, "Floozies and
foam from frittered family funds and you fix a feast following the
fugitive's folderol"? The first-born's fury flashed, but fussing was
futile. The frugal first-born felt it was fitting to feel "favored" for
his faithfulness and fidelity to family, father, and farm. In foolhardy
fashion, he faulted the father for failing to furnish a fatling and
feast for his friends. His folly was not in feeling fit for feast and
fatling for friends; rather his flaw was in his feeling about the
fairness of the festival for the found fugitive.

His fundamental fallacy was a fixation on favoritism, not forgiveness.
Any focus on feeling "favored" will fester and friction will force the
frayed facade to fall. Frankly, the father felt the frigid first-born's
frugality of forgiveness was formidable and frightful. But the father's
former faithful fortitude and fearless forbearance to forgive both
fugitive and first-born flourishes.

The farsighted father figured, "Such fidelity is fine, but what forbids
fervent festivity for the fugitive that is found? Unfurl the flags and
finery, let fun and frolic freely flow. Former failure is forgotten,
folly is forsaken. Forgiveness forms the foundation for future
fortune."

Four facets of the father's fathomless fondness for faltering fugitives
are:
1) Forgiveness
2) Forever faithful friendship
3) Fadeless love, and
4) A facility for forgetting flaws


by Timothy E. Fulop
Assistant Dean of Faculty,
Columbia Theological Seminary


Have a nice day!

Love & Peace!~

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As Seen In China.

Well, the Olympics in Beijing have started and i believe everyone knows of the story behind the girl who can't sing and the fake fireworks display. Can't believe the authorities actually support that the fake visage! Oh well....

Anyway, do enjoy the pictures below. Got them from Justin's forwarded email. Have a nice day:














I'm not putting any caption, as a picture tells a thousand words. Enjoy.

I'm currently blogging at the lobby of Sunway Hotel, Seberang Jaya, waiting for some bigshot to come. Oh well, back to work as the by-election comes!

Love & Peace!~

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Brick Bridge Fractured.

"...The color, the color, the color of your skin don't matter to me
As long as, as long as, long as we can live in harmony
I kinda, I kinda, I kinda, like to be the president
And I could, and I could, and I could show you how your money's spent

Why can't we be friends..."

Excerpt from Smash Mouth's Why Can't We Be Friends

While i was in (an all boy) primary school, i remember i had two good friends; Eng Seang and Heng Tian. Both Eng Seang and i were close as i would go to his place for Bahasa Malaysia tuition classes with our BM teacher, and we were close. As for Heng Tian, we used to spend time together as prefects and in group discussions. We were close.

Yes, 'were', in the past tense. I don't mind not jotting down they're names here, as i've lost contact with them. We were close more than ten years ago. But now, i've got no idea where they are now, what they're doing or if they are still alive?!

In secondary school (yes, again, all boys' school), there a whole new set of friends i grew close to. Some of them, i've lost contact. For the rest, we still keep in contact.

But to put in a nutshell, wherever we are, we tend to open up to people who we're with in a close proximity after awhile. And i think if we start drifting apart, will that friendship/relationship we have start breaking as well?

The times spent together, sharing things with one another, having fun times and sad moments....

*sigh*

Sometimes, i ask myself, is it worth keeping or starting a friendship? But what i know is to savour the moments when you're together with your friends, or even with the ones you love.

I'm sorry.


"...I can be your friend
I can be your friend
Any day in any weather
We can be friends and play together

Ya were all pretty different some are skinny some are stout
But the inside is the part were supposed to care about
Aye! thats why we have feelings that are very much the same
So instead of saying weirdo i think friends a better name..."

Taken from Veggie Tales's I Can Be Your Friend

Love & Peace!~

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Before Meeting Mr/Miss Right... read this.

An article i found while surfing through a friend's blog, and the Internet. Take awhile and read this. Or just skip it and just do your work. Either way, i just feel so darn happy!


FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?

You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage:
(1) You can grow together, or
(2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.

To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!
Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.

A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ';. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world:
(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and
(2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort.

Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones don't appreciate you?
Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.


Have a nice day, readers!

Love & Peace!~

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How I feel now.

Drawn on Miami beach on Saturday morning.

What i felt then: I just feel so darn happy.

What i feel now: I just feel so darn happy!


More pictures to come soon. Don't understand why i can't upload other pictures!? Well, some other time lah.

Love & Peace!~

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